Put out the trash

In life, we all have similar problems, and we all do similar things to fix those problems.

 

1.     We all get dirty. So we take a bath to get clean.

2.     We all get hungry. So we buy food to eat.

3.     We all get tired. So at night and sometimes in the day, we sleep.

4.     We all experience dirty floors, so we use the mop or we sweep.

All of those problems that were just names, were all things that we could just easily

handle ourselves and just take care of without help from someone right?

But what do you do, when you have a problem that takes more than you, to fix it?

One problem that we all need help with, is our trash.

The purpose of the trash truck coming every week, is to help assist with cleaning up our houses.

Without them, many of us would be sick, depressed, and lonely because trash pollutes the atmosphere.

If you’ve ever had problems keeping friends, just maybe there’s some trash nearby that you

Haven’t yet gotten rid of…

Maybe you have a bad temper, maybe you don’t know how to talk to people, and maybe you don’t really

Give people a chance to get to know you. Maybe these things all happen because of trash. Just because

You don’t smell the trash, that doesn’t mean that there’s no trash around. Just because you don’t

Smell or see the trash, that doesn’t mean that others don’t see or smell the trash that you live

Around every day. Many people get offended because they feel that no one likes them, but really, the

Problem may not even be you at all. It may be the thing that is around you that you need to throw out.

You could be the nicest person in the world, but if you have roaches in your home, most people

Will do everything that they can to avoid visiting you. Not because they don’t want to see you, they don’t want to see the roaches.

Many people feel that “if they don’t like me, then OWE WELLLLLL”

But that’s really the wrong attitude because most people who say that really don’t like being alone.

But because they refuse to make changes in their life, year after year goes by, and they are the same, “lonely”.

If you didn’t really care that you’re lonely like you be saying, you wouldn’t keep saying that you don’t care.

You keep bringing it up because you really do care. I used to do the same thing all the time. Saying stuff like:

·       Owe they don't have to like me

·       They don’t have to say nothing to me

·       I don’t need friends

I used to say all this stuff, but really I didn’t mean it at all. I realized that the problem wasn’t everyone else,

the problem was me. I didn’t want to change things. In order for people to want to come over our house,

we have to get our house in order so that people will want to come over.

There was trash in my life. Trash that everyone could smell, but I couldn’t smell it.

I couldn’t smell it because it’s been around me for so long that I got used to it and just forgot that it was still there.

I'm talking about trash.

·       Trash that I picked up because it was all I felt I was worth. (having sex for money)

·       Trash that guys left in my life. (after using me for sex and treating me like nothing)

 

 

Being around trash for a long period of time can make you feel that there’s something wrong with everybody

else and nothing wrong with you. Making you compromise who you are, and even degrading yourself. You see people staring at you,

while inside your saying to yourself that they have the problem, not you. Some people curse, have different sex partners, drink, smoke, watch x rated

movies and lie, gossip, and even steal. When you hook up with trash, you'd be suprised if the bad habits you pick up.

But because they’re hurt, it’s hard for them to accept the fact that they too are wrong for some things.

When you’ve been hurt, you don’t want to hear that you’re wrong for anything. All you want is for someone to

understand and to comfort you. All you want is for someone to relate to you and to say, that they understand.

That's why we all need a trash man in our lives to help us. Because a trash man won't judge us. It's his job

to help us with trash. But we have to sit the trash out in order for it to be picked up. Sometimes the trash is too

much for us to bare alone. The trash man (Or trash women) understands that accumulating trash, is apart of life. I pray that this blog

encourages you to allow someone to help you clean up the trash in your life. Even if you don't wont to get rid of it, It's ok because

I've been there. But I promise you, once you get rid of it, your life will be much better.

The problem with many of us ladies, is that many of us have been hurt to the point to where it’s hard for us to

take the responsibility for some of the mistakes that we really made. Having children is a wonderful thing,

but I wish I didn’t have my son outside of wedlock. That’s something that I used to not be able to say.

Because I had him outside of wedlock, now he has to suffer because I can't make his father be in his life.

And instead of me taking the responsibility for laying down and having sex with a guy who I really never

took the time to really get to know, and see if he really was the man I wanted to have a baby with,

I just used to look at everyone else as being enemy’s because of my own mistakes. What we have to

realize girls, is that we have to face the mirror. If we have trash in our houses (in our lives) “we” have to

take the responsibility, and put the trash out. We can’t expect other people to take the trash out for us,

because really, they don’t have to. If we choose not to take the trash out, the only ones who suffer, is us, no one else.

We can either get rid of the trash, or continue to be miserable, and lonely. Taking out trash isn’t easy.

Just like our monthly period, right ladies??? I know I be feeling like I’m in the electric chair when that

time of the month comes… LOL! But when it comes, I prepare myself for what I have to deal with.

If I’m going to be hanging out somewhere, I make sure I bring accessories like some kind of body

splash or perfume. Because people don’t want to smell a fish market when it’s that time of the month.

And if we allow ourselves to smell like a fish market around people during that time of the month,

we can’t get mad if people don’t want to hang around us. Many females don’t smell like fish,

but their attitudes do, and no one wants to be around a moody woman. As women, we don’t even

wanna be around moody women, so you know no man is gonna wanna be around no fishy attitude woman.

If someone passed gas on the elevator, wouldn’t your first instincts be to get out of that elevator any way

that you can??? When something is offensive, it’s human nature to get away from something that’s

anything other than pleasant. When people fart, it gets on your clothes and causes people to think

that you did it. I’ve had that happen to me. That’s why we also have to watch who we hang around,

because their scent can rub off on us. Its okay when it’s a good scent, but when it’s a bad scent,

we don’t need to think twice about it. Us woman always think we can change someone. But if the guy

you meet starts off with even a small scent of fart, I encourage you to leave that guy to himself,

because it’s only a matter of time before that scent gets on you.

Some guys try to disguise their fart with a fragrance that smell good. But that’s like putting baby powder in a messed diaper.

It’s still not clean. And these kinds of guys just put on an act. They look like they got it all together, but really,

their just another fart. You don’t want a fart, you want someone who has a pure heart.

When I started hanging around other trash (Guys who sold drugs and had sex with multiple women)

More trash started to accumulate. Accumulating to the point where my personality started to look like

My environment. I started attracting the wrong types of people, and these people were people

who bread more trash in my life. Then I started attending church, and my pastor who became my

trash man, started to teach me through the company manual (The Bible) on how to get rid of the trash

that had accumulated in my life. This man, my pastor had shown compassion on me, and taught me

about the company owner (God) and how much he loved me despite my trashy ways of living.

I decided to join that company of God, and through him, I been able to get rid of my trash, and now

I’m much happier because people see who I really am now. All the trash that was in my life, was

hiding who I really was. So I say all that to say, get rid of the trash that’s in your life…

You’ll feel a whole lot cleaner and better...

With Love.......   

"Sophia"

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